Who would have thought at breakfast early in the morning a heated discussion would flare up? I sat and just listened to mum and brother talk back and forth about the upcoming wedding.
Mum is somewhat displeased that the new couple seem to take things for granted, and seem to expect things to be arranged and organised and (most importantly) paid for. There are things that the groom side should pay for, at least from the point of view of the local customs, and Mum has no problem paying for most things. But she is somewhat upset about the fact that my sister-in-law (to be) went out and bought an expensive wedding dress, and called mum one day last week basically asking it to be paid for.
"Why does anyone need to buy a wedding dress?" Mum is dumbfounded, but brother is defensive of his wife (to-be), as is expected. There was no shouting or tempers, but I could sense things were heating up. As we walked home, mum complained almost the whole way about how irresponsible the couple is, how they seem to expect mum to do this and that, even though mum is in no condition to (given her treatment...).
It saddens me to see all this, especially since they've not even gotten married yet. It doesn't do any good for mum's health, and it seems to be creating some bad vibes between the people involved.
"Don't get too involved", I said. And I just hope before and after the wedding she will heed my words.
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