How many times can you forgive someone who continues to hurt you again and again?
How many times can you just forgive someone who does not seem to know or understand how much hurt and wrong he can cause to others?
The monk in the mountains told me the Buddha never taught that endless forgiveness is compassion. You can forgive, but do so with wisdom. Forgive not for the sake of forgiving, for forgiving without wisdom is foolishness. Forgiving only to make the person repeat the same mistakes again and again is not helping him, but instead hurting him, and others. Someone who continuously beats you and torments you can be forgiven. But forgiving with wisdom is to let go of the past, and let go of this person who brings no benefit to your spiritual or physical wellbeing.
There are those who can be forgiven, and shown the path. But there are those who can be forgiven, and are forever lost in the vices of greed, hatred and delusion.
Forgive, pardon his ignorance and not knowing better. And let go.
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